![]() ![]() That said, there is a wide range of toys that can help trans women get off. “For example, me and a friend just kind of get really high, lick and smell each other, it's completely unfocused on our dicks and there's no pressure to orgasm, because we're not even focused on those areas. It feels more like a lewd cuddle session,” Tenebrarum explains. “I can speak only for my experience, but most trans lesbian sex for me has consisted of mostly foreplay, there's hardly ever penetration even, and isn't super focused on genitals. “So I think a cis girl needs to know that how she talks about a trans girl's ding-dong could be more upsetting than if a cis guy were to say the same thing.” “It's rather simple to say, but genitals are blessed with being the arbiter of sex and gender, within the context of a patriarchy that is rooted in biological understandings of people,” Blanchard says. That means talking to your trans partner about their genitalia - from how they want to be touched to what words to call it - is extremely important. Blanchard warns that because cis women are “upheld as the pillars of femininity,” trans women may be more self-conscious during sex. Experiencing simultaneous stimulation can be ecstatic, to say the least.īut it’s not just about touch, it’s also how you talk about our penises. To paraphrase one of my favorite zines out there, Fucking Trans Women, people born with penises have an incredibly sensitive web of nerves throughout their crotch, from the top of their shaft, through the taint between the rear and cock, and ending at the anal sphincter. These areas respond well to simultaneous stimulation as well, especially when playing with the anus too. For trans women on HRT, stroking the frenulum - the outer tissue on the penis connecting the shaft and the glans - is particularly pleasurable, and the penis’ tip often responds well to gentle touching.Īlongside the penis, the perineum is right above the prostate some trans women even prefer having it touched (or fucked) instead of penile stimulation, as the perineum’s placement feels analogous to a vagina. In the latter’s case, our crotches require a soft, smooth touch based on using one’s fingertips. ![]() Trans women with vaginas have genitals that function similarly to cis women’s, whereas trans women’s penises on HRT are much more analogous to an enormous version of a cis woman’s clitoris. So what are some of the best ways to pleasure trans women that want genital contact? For one, it depends on our configuration. “No two trans girls are the same.” Take an anatomy lesson. “One girl might like her dick touched, another might not, some areas can possibly be an off zone altogether because I know men touching my dick completely takes me out of the mood, so I'm sure the same applies to woman-love-woman sex for some trans women,” Tenebrarum tells me. Trans adult performer Claire Tenebrarum warns that cisgender women are just as prone to cis men when it comes to believing and regurgitating these unrealistic stereotypes. While not every trans woman uses estrogen, many (if not most) of us do, and our bodies work so much differently than cis men’s on hormone replacement therapy (or HRT). Mainstream porn implies anyone with a penis, be they cis men, nonbinary people, or trans women, prefer intense, rigorous stroking until they squirt semen. Don’t make assumptions about our genitals. So let’s chat about trans women, how our bodies work, what feels good for us, and what you should know before we go home together. That’s why I’m here today: to help you unlearn our society’s nasty transphobia and teach you how to have fun with the trans women in your love life. Hell, most trans women don’t even know how to pleasure themselves. But because trans bodies are ridiculously stigmatized, there aren’t that many sex ed resources out there about us. Queer trans girls are out there dating, too, and chances are if you’re reading this article, you’re at least entertaining the idea of hanging out with one of us (if you haven’t already!). Of course, sapphic dating is easier said than done, and not just because a gentle brush against the leg can mean 20 different things. ![]()
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